Touched

There are some things in life that I want to remember forever.

Like the time my friend stayed with me when I was sick on day off. Well past 5pm.

And the time another friend picked me up at the airport and was so excited I had landed and come back that he picked up my 28kg bag forgetting it had a handle to pull the bag as opposed to carrying it…

The time when my friend Natasha surprised me with flowers on my bday :)

The time when I broke up with G and my uncle sent me flowers and chocolates on Valentine’s, making me the envy of all girls in the dorm.

The time when my current boyfriend showed up to see my family in Malaysia.

The time when he told me he wanted to marry me.

The second and third time when he told me he wanted to marry me.

The time when I told him I wanted to get married.

“Strange what desire can make foolish people do,”

Expectations

In all my time of making relationships and ending them and losing some and enjoying some really great ones, I think I’ve finally realised the key to being happy in some relationships.

When I say the word relationship, I refer to all of them. I used to be unhappy every time something didn’t go right. If my boyfriend wasn’t boyfriendy enough. If my friend did not make any effort to see me. If I had no one to chill out with because everybody was busy. If I couldn’t see my best friend because his wife gets jealous about us hanging out.

And then I did something that totally saved my life. I stopped expecting stuff from them. I gave up on expecting my boyfriend to call me and I gave up on expecting my friends to make more of an effort. It sounds funny but yeah I stopped making the effort that I go through for them. I had to consciously stop doing and stop expecting.

The funny thing about humanity is that we take people for granted without realising it. And people only realise someone’s worth when that someone isn’t there anymore.

Pulling away and expecting less from people, has saved me so much misery. And its a technique I’d recommend to everyone.

The jokes

So I’ve been invited to attend my first single-sex wedding.

And I have no idea what to bring as a wedding gift or what to wear, for that matter.

I had a look at hampers online and they’ve probably got a slightly wrong connotation to it…

Like a chocolate fondue.

Maybe they’ll get the humour in it.

“No I could never tell you where I’ve been,”

You need not have come to my lair
You do not know who you’ll find in there.
I sink my claws into the snow
For all that you’ve forgot in my passice show

For there’s a corner
Out amongst the white
Where someone is waiting
For you to arrive
And though you’re searching
For what you might never find
He’ll be there waiting
For all of your life.

I could not ignore the call of the night
To return to the haunt you would have me deny
No, I could never tell you where I had been.
For you could never answer them.

But there’s a corner
Out amongst the white
Where someone is waiting
For you to arrive
And the one you’re holding
Is not the one you left behind.
He’ll be there waiting
For all of your life.

And though our coats are all at one with the snow
I could not turn away from all I wish I did not know.

All I wish you had not shown.